Wish We Could Go Back

Remember wanting me so much
I used to tingle from your touch
and I'd wait for you to come home
You're sittin right beside the phone
and there was nothing else but you
and who could separate us two
I'd never know when we got lost
but now I'm counting up the calls

I wish we could go back (to love less complicated)
I wish we could go back (ready to prove our love when they said we couldn't make it)
Please tell me you miss that (that new love, that crazy love)
Cuz I wanna go back
I know it's possible tell me you feel it too

We barely talk, we barely smile
No hint of what we used to be
No courtesy and no romance
Not too much left of you and me
But it's not too late I believe
But baby we can get it back
Cuz life's too short for us to let
What we had die and just forget

I wish we could go back (to love less complicated)
I wish we could go back (ready to prove our love when they said we couldn't make it)
Please tell me you miss that (that new love, that crazy love)
Cuz I wanna go back
I know it's possible tell me you feel it too

~ Vivan Green - Wish We Could Go Back ~

I don't think I ever truly listened to the lyrics to this song until now. Is it ever really a good idea to want to go back to a past state? To think about how things were during those beginning days of dating, it sure does sound tempting, especially during the not so easy times of a relationship.

When you first started dating, you were so concerned with the other person's well being. You often went out of your way, above and beyond, to impress the other person. Nothing was too good for your baby. In fact, it often felt like nothing was ever good enough, causing you to find ways to outdo yourself the next time, and the next time, and the next time. An enormous amount of time and energy was invested in pleasing the other person, often at the expense of your own desires. But that didn't matter then, b/c seeing that other person happy made you happy. It pleased you to be able to please them. But, after some time, comfort comes knocking on your door, ready to take up residence. And, as we all know, comfort does not always know how to be a good house guest.

As with all aspects of life, once you get comfortable, certain things change. Things you used to do, you don't do anymore. There isn't enough time... It's a waste of money... It's just not important...anymore. It's here where daydreams are cultivated of the way things used to be.

One thing I've been blessed to experience is growth. During the difficult times, it's so easy to just say "kick rocks" and walk away. But, it is when we go through the fire, enduring the pain, that allows us to come out much stronger than before. Peter Marshall said God will not permit any troubles to come upon us, unless He has a specific plan by which great blessing can come out of the difficulty. Wanting to go back to how things were, prior to learning and growing, means that you go back to the weaker, less knowledgeable version of yourself. Even though it seems like a good idea to go back, I think I'd rather take my chances and look forward.

Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning.